I don’t know if we have met or
not but I feel it’s about time I write this letter. I have no idea what I want
to tell you in this letter so am just going to go with the flow and write
anything and everything about you but most importantly me and all the things
that you should know before you ask me to marry you.
First of all, I want you to know
if I say yes to you it is because I truly love you. I won’t say yes just
because of peer pressure to be married and have a family of my own. No, I would
never settle for less. I have had several proposals which did not turn into
marriage because for one reason or another I thought I had not found you; and
until I did I was not going to give up on you.
So here is the thing, I don’t
know your Idea of a wife but my husband will be more of a partner than a
husband. He will be my best friend, a
friend that I can sleep with, make love to, hustle with, travel with, shop
with, club with, clean the house with, someone that I can totally rely on. I hope
you will be my partner in crime, a life partner, someone I can talk anything to
without regrets or fear of consequences without being bound by
obligations, human limitation or worrying what your reaction will be. Someone I
can trust with my heart, my money and my life. Someone I can build with and
laugh with about all the silly things.. Yes silly things even though I also have
deepest affection for intellectual conversations, the ability to just sit and
talk for hours about politics, religion, love, life and everything in between.
Someone I am not afraid to lose because I know you will always be by my side no
matter how difficult the situation seems to be
Darling, after all that I have
been through in search for you, after all the deception and the lies, I have
grown to appreciate more men who are honest. A man who will tell me exactly how
it is no matter how difficult and painful it is. I hope you are a man who would
own up to your mistakes and want to improve to become the better version of yourself.
Don’t worry about me, the only thing that I will always love whole heartedly
even if its painful is the truth. I also understand that we are all human and
at one time or another you will make mistakes, and what define us is how well
we rise after we have fallen. I will appreciate you more if I hear about these
mistakes from you not from your friends, family or neighbors. I want to be the
first to know, I want to be your confidant and someone you can easily talk to.
Dear future husband, my father is
no hero in ordinary life, but he is famous for how he defend his woman no
matter what. If anyone ever try to
hurt my mom he will immediately turn into a superman no matter who that person is. It does not matter if it is his sister or his mother. My mom is the queen
of his heart and his house and he does not tolerate anyone who will disrespect
her. I hope you are that kind of a man. I man who will fight for me and stand
by my side no matter what. A man who would pick me over football, his friends
and family and everything in between.
You don’t have to be a big man or
a bouncer; you don’t have to be cool or athletic. You don’t even have to play
guitar or fix cars or be a millionaire to be that man. But you have to be kind, because I know for sure that a good marriage is created by the
little kind acts we share with each other. I will never be too old to be spoilt
with random gifts, our romantic outings or to hear those three magic words (I
love you/ I miss you). Let me wake up next to you with that morning kiss, have
coffee in the morning and wonder through the city with my hand in yours. One
thing I have learned is we will never be too old to hold hands in public or
kissing in front of our children, but most importantly we should never go to
bed angry at each other. It’s in having
the capacity to forgive and forget that will chain our souls forever, it’s in
giving each other the safe environment
to grow that will teach our children the importance of finding the right
partner.
I have a weakness that I think it’s
about time I come clean, I am attracted to laughter. I hope you are the kind of
person who smile often and think positively and enjoy the little things life
has to offer. I admire someone who can put their cynical and pessimistic
thoughts aside no matter how bad the situation is and bear through with a sense
of humor; because staying close to such people makes me happier even in my
worst moments. It’s also important to our children because I want them to grow
in a happy family with a positive attitude even when nothing seems to be
working.
You should also know I am a work
in progress, at times I have meltdowns and I wet my pillows with tears when am
in pain. Many times I find it difficult to let people in because there are times when I have opened my self to people and all they did was to walk all over me. Please know it is not you that I am afraid of, it is getting hurt, it is the pain and the heart breaks that gives me the chills then I think about the possibility of being broken again. Pain has been a big part of this journey and at times am afraid pain is all I will ever know. But you don't have to worry; my damaged heart and broken soul that were wounded along this journey are still in repair, I don’t know
how long it will take before they are whole again but I assure you baby, the
work that my father in heaven is doing is an excellent work and it is worth the
wait.
In the end I hope we work
together in advancing the kingdom of God, I pray that not only should we see the
potential in each other and all the areas where our strength lies but also see
the areas where we struggle and encourage each other to be and do better. I believe in knowing who we are without limiting our selves to expectations of who we are. Trying new things and experimenting should be the only thing that is constant in our lives.
With endless love,
Future wife.
