what changed?

Dear diary,

They say everyone is meant to be with someone, that we are all seeking for that one special person, who is right for us, that person who is meant to be our soulmate our better half. But if you have been through enough relationships, look closely at the relationships around you, you begin to wonder if there is such a thing as a right person or just different flavors of wrong. You begin to wonder what anyone hope to accomplish in the end of each relationship. If people in relationship aim to achieve mutual benefit or they are all selfish and each one secretly wants to use the other person for their personal gain.

Everyday millions of relationships are started between two people who believe they love each other and they want to get to know more about each other while million others are broken due to thousand reasons. Everyday millions of people in the world walks towards the alter with their vows to marry that someone they believe is the right person for them while millions others file for divorce believing whoever they had married was not the right person, not what they wanted. It makes u wonder the validity of love and the theory of soulmates. It makes me wonder if my for fathers lived in a broken world like this, in a world where love could be bought, in a world of freedom that, every time you think you no longer love your partner u are free to find a new love or may be every time you get something better you walk away from the old one that is no longer of benefit to you. In a world where giving up on someone you swore to love for the rest of your life is so easy.

If you look closely at most marriages of our fore fathers you can see number of scars that each partner carries earned from years of throwing angry words at each other but giving up or walking away had never been an option. It’s not because they were perfect, it’s not because they were always happy, it’s because they knew no one is perfect, they knew the cure for marriage is never divorce, its repentance and forgiveness from both partners. They knew u can never repair a broken marriage by separation but simple integrity that leads a man and  a woman to meet their obligations in their everyday life.

So what has changed today? Why is divorce so easy? Why has love become so temporary? Why do people who celebrated their wedding in front of so many witnesses will file for a divorce just few days after the wedding? Is it because our freedom is taking control over us? or maybe we marry the wrong person for the wrong reasons or may be the wrong person for the right reasons? People say they get divorce because they no longer love their partner, but if you cannot trust your own feelings because they keep changing why choose to marry then?

All I can say is, marriage will be so much easier is we all marry that one person that we can gaze at them lovingly and say “this is a problem am willing to have”

Much love

Me