How I see it

Dear diary,

I don't pretend to know about all kinds of men women hate but I will tell you what kind of men I really hate. I know the word hate might sound extreme but I hate them and I wish there was a stronger word to express how I feel about some male species the obviously landed on a wrong planet. First of all I want you to promise me whatever i'm going to say will remain a secret between us, somehow my people do not believe on freedom of speech when it comes to women I think it’s because all the rules are made by men, if they ever find out I said this I don't know what will happen to me. May be they will stroke me naked in front of the village and I will become an outcast from that day on. But am going to take the risk anyway, after all, I have learned that it is alright to say something is not working for you if it is not working and since no one is willing to listen to me, am here to tell you what is not working for me.

First of all I hate men who abuse women physically, emotionally, sexually or whatever kind of abuse you may name it. Most men in this group will come home from whatever holes they come from and raise their hands to the ladies that they once claimed to love with no shame.  They throw punches at women they are supposed to protect causing physical injuries that sometimes may result to permanent disabilities; some even go to an extent of beating their women to death for whatever reason they may decide to come up with, what a tragedy.  How could men be so heartless?? How do one beat a pregnant woman without even caring about the safety of your own child.

And then there those men who would go around forcing themselves on everything that is moves, they would sexually abuse their women, young girls, young boys  and even animals. Really?? I got news for you; there are women everywhere who offer that service in exchange of a really small amount of money, you can quencher your thirsty there and leave our children alone. Rumor has it that, there are some witch doctors who instructs men to rape young girls/ boys as a condition for them to be rich (I wonder why haven't they made themselves rich while they know the way to the land of the rich). And then there are those men with a stupid belief that, once you are infected with HIV they can only get cured if you have sex with a virgin girl....seriously?? Whoever is in this group I hope you know you are a disgrace to your grandmother, your mother, your sisters, your daughters and granddaughters not to mention your wife.

I hate irresponsible men, you know the kind of men who impregnate a girl and abandon her, and then when the child is old enough they come looking for them saying they are the father, I mean what do you think a father is.....?? In case you didn't know being able to impregnate a girl does not make you a father, it is the courage to raise that baby that makes you a father. This group include those that I call useless fathers, they have children and by God's grace they didn't abandon the mother but then they are there as a burden, they don't care if their family eat or sleep hungry, they don't know where the school fees come from, all they know is alcohol, alcohol and more alcohol. Whatever penny they earn they use it to buy alcohol and with no shame demand for food when they get home.

I am disgusted by men who view women as a property, yeah I know you do pay dowry when you marry me but that does not mean am your property and no, you cannot treat as you please, I am a woman, a strong woman and I should be treated with respect. Whatever you pay cannot even cover a quarter on sleepless nights my parents spent when I was sick, it does not even cover the medical bills that they paid to make sure i'm healthy again, it does not cover even a quarter of my school fees so in case you didn't know you are not buying anyone because if it was buying you couldn't afford anyone.  The same goes to men who sell their daughters as if they are animals to be bought; those who put a price tag on their daughters from the moment they pop out of their mother’s womb, then they go around looking for the highest bidder without caring to the safety of your daughters, Shame on you.

 Yeah I hate man who sleeps around with anything that moves, the kind of man who cannot control their sexual desires, the kind of men who think their manhood is judged by the number of women they sleep with. I pity them; they don’t know they are risking their own lives. The funny thing is sometimes these men don't even have strength to be fucking around and they opt to use Viagra just to do whatever they think they do best. Here is my advice to those who use Viagra, there is a Swahili saying that says “Mbuzi hula urefu wa kamba yake” (a got can only graze to the length of his rope) if it goes further than that it will be strangled. So just use the strength God has given you, whatever extra energy you are looking for will kill you some day.

Am irritated by lazy men, the kind of men who don't want to work or earn their own money. This has a big problem to the current generation. You man find a decent guy, young, energetic, smart as you can imagine but guess what he does for a living, GOLD DIGGING!!! Yeah I know you might be surprised that there are actually male gold diggers but take it from me they are there. All they want to do is to be a parasite to some rich woman. They don't care about the age, they just want women who have money, to feed them, clothe them, give them pocket money and in turn they fulfill those women’s sexual desires, shame on them.

Last but not least, I hate gay men. You can call me old fashioned but am sorry being gay is wrong in so many ways. It is against traditions, religion and even nature. And this is how I see it .Ciao!!