Are you contented with your life?

Many of us define success by how much money we have, how many women we bed, how many cars we drive, the size of our homes, the title of our jobs, how many heads we turn every time we pass and so on and so forth. I have always wondered what the meaning of success is if we can’t find a purpose for our lives. To me, success goes hand in hand with fulfillment. I need to have a purpose in life, to be contented with my progress, to leave an indelible mark in someone’s life and to inadvertently be contented with every aspect of my life. The hollow feeling, the emptiness, the despair most of us experience is because we lack the drive, the purpose to make our lives worth living for. Most of the time we suffer from low self esteem, we look down upon ourselves and basically become a caricature of a being alien to us.

We sleep with everyone to assure ourselves that we are beautiful, we live a pretentious life to paint an image of contented individuals but deep down we are a shell, a mockery of ourselves. We are empty and desperately in such of fulfillment and contentment. How many can say without flinching that they are contented with the kind of life they are living? How many stay in abusive relationships because they believe they are inadequate and their partners are their tickets to happiness? How many sacrifice too much simply because they believe they have to be submissive? How many sleep with as many partners to proof they are beautiful? When you think about it, the very genesis of our problems is that we have made it okay to live a pretentious life, to wear shoes that doesn’t fit, to fake smiles, to live beyond our means and to inadvertently live by some alien philosophy.

We are okay with the phrase “fake it till you make it”. What we don’t seem to understand is that faking does not provide us with fulfillment or contentment. It simply makes us suffer deep inside. You can’t afford the latest car but you go ahead to take out a loan simply because you want to show friends you can manage it. You don’t like weaves, or high heels, or cladding in micro minis but you do it simply because you think that’s the way to keep your man. You lose your principles, you become a puppet and before you know it you can’t recognize yourself in the mirror. You have literally become an alien person to yourself. 

You fake your smiles; you project an image of a person very happy but in the cover of darkness cry your eyes red. You are basically living a lie. We both know that whether rich or poor, there is no such fulfilling thing as living a contented life. If you are at peace with yourself, don’t have to pretend or lead a life that aint yours, then and only then can you say to lead a fulfilling life. We have been fallaciously meant to believe that happiness, fulfillment and contentment is all about how comfortable or how much money you have. In fact, some of us do despicable and downright unimaginable things just to be at the top of the ladder. We allow ourselves to be trodden on, do things we could never do, sell our bodies all in the name of living the ultimate life.

What happens when you have all of them but lack peace of mind? Ever wondered how it feels not to go anywhere you would want because you are always looking over your shoulder? Ever wondered why some people are always insecure of how they look, the kind of house they live in or whether they find acceptance in the eyes of others? The truth of the matter is that the whole idea of living a lie is that it surps all your energy, your confidence, your self esteem and literally makes you a rag. You become an emotional wreck and the perfect target for emotional turmoil. You do all the bidding in a relationship, place of work and basically lose your voice in any important matter of discussion.

It’s time we stood up to be counted, realize that we only have one life to live and that the choices we make have a direct consequence on how our lives ultimately turn out. Don’t allow being someone’s rag, don’t stomach acts of heartaches simply because you think you are inferior, don’t allow someone to dictate how you lead your life simply because you feel you owe them your life. Its time you stood up and said NO. You hold your happiness in your own life and its time you made something beautiful out of your life. Purpose to lead a life full of purpose and fulfillment! Above all, work to be happy and not to be an object for someone else’s happiness. Have a purpose driven day!