Thursday, January 23, 2014

Homosexuality; The wrong that will never be right



Honestly, what is going on?? Why do people all of a sudden want to air their dirty laundry in public? For weeks, I have been trying not to hear anything concerning the Issue of homosexuality, a subject that have become sensitive to many African nations most of them condemning it but it has been impossible. It’s everywhere; on the Facebook, televisions, twitter, blogs and even telephones!! It is not that I have never heard of homosexuality before or never seen a gay man or lesbian woman. I have but for some reasons I chose not to pay much attention to it because it is disgusting to think of a man having sexual relationship with another man, or a woman with a woman.

The crazy thing about all this is that, while homosexuality remains to be unacceptable to many African nations few of African Icons have dared to come out of the closet to declaring their homosexuality in public; and some have even dared to say they were born that way. Now, I don’t know what gave them the courage to do so or why they think it is important for them tell us about who they are attracted to but I think it must be one of the two reasons I could think of; first, they themselves know it is unnatural and they are indeed committing a crime against nature, against God (if they do believe in God) and against the society that surround them and so they feel the need to justify what they are doing (after all there is no need for justification if what you are doing is the right thing). Secondly, since being gay is something that is largely frowned upon, they feel the need to lie to the society that they were born that way and that it is not their fault, so that they don’t get blamed for bringing shame in to their families.

Before you start giving me that-you-are-a-conservative kind of a look, let me remind you that for more than a century scientist have conducted thousands of experiments trying to prove the existence of a “gay gene” that in one way or another would have been blamed for personal choices of being homosexuals with no success. You know why?? Because the gene does not exist and you cannot find something that does not exist. For those who believe in God, no matter which religion or congregation you belong to the answer is simple; it’s Satan at work. But even if we put all the blame on Satan, does not make it right?

The real question that I keep asking myself is why do people choose to be gay? Yeah I said choose because to me being gay is a choice otherwise how do you explain a man who has been straight for more than 30 years of his life then all of a sudden turns into a gay?? How would you explain a teenager who used to be straight with a girlfriend until he found a sugar daddy who could give him all the money he wanted and suddenly he became gay? Cynthia Nixon an actor in sex and the city once said “I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. This is indeed another proof from the gay community that being gay is a choice. So why do people choose wrong while we can choose right? This is a question that am yet to find the answer.

While some gays try to justify their behavior by saying they were born that way, that they have been gays all their life, I have come across others who brag about turning straight teenagers into gays (shocking). I know you are wondering how all this can be possible but we all know if you are loaded with cash anything is possible. The deception of our young and innocent children can start with a simple post Facebook as “I will pay someone 100,000Tsh to suck my nipples.” Sound simple right?? But the more he pays this young boy the more he demands and before you know it your son, brother, or cousin is a gay. He learns to live a lie until the lie becomes his life then find the nerve to say he has always been gay, that he was born that way... all because he succeeded to convince himself that it was not his fault. Finally, when they have succeeded to convince themselves they want to convince us to believe in what they believe in. For me, that will never happen because the wrong will always remain to be wrong even if everybody is doing it.

I have heard of fate being talked of, I have heard of Satan being blamed for someone being gay, I have heard of biological and psychological explanations but I think in the end we make our own choices. How we live our lives is our own doing. The truth is even if gay people can never stop being attracted to members of the same sex they can learn not to act on their desires; we have all done it at one time or another. At some point or another you have ever loved someone or something you could not have and you had to learn not to act on your desires. A lot of people have learned how to stop their addiction on drugs, smoking, alcohol and even sex because it was the right thing to do. ... so why can’t they? Why do they fight so hard to turn a moral wrong into civil rights?

I know that gay people think coming out in the open makes them brave and all that but it does not. There are so many ways to be brave in this world and sometimes it does not mean laying dawn your life for something you believe to be bigger than your self... sometimes it means nothing more than gritting your teeth through pain and the work of everyday, the slow walk toward a better life for you and everyone around you.


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